Take responsibility for your life and family culture. Stop reacting to people and events within your family. Start making enormous deposits in each others emotional bank accounts by validating, affirming and recognising each other as important human beings.
Begin with the End in Mind
Define your family’s mission and highest goals. Get your entire family aligned towards a mutually agreeable destination. What kind of strength and abilities will your children need to have in order to be successful when grown up?
Put First Things First
Don’t climb the ladder of success, and as you get near the top rung, realise that the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall. The foundation must always put the family first. Weekly family times and one-on-ones are vital to our family needs.
Have an “everyone can win” attitude within your family. Embrace an attitude of abundance and search for third alternatives so that everyone feels valued.
Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
The deepest need of each family member is to be understood, for understanding affirms the intrinsic worth of another. Not seeking to understand leads to judgement, rejection and manipulation. Empathic listening opens the doors to real bonding.
The cancers of any family are criticising, complaining, comparing and competing. The key to your family’s success is how your treat the child that tests you the most. Be a light, not a judge and learn to work together so that you can have a happy family that achieves more.
Sharpen the Saw
Create a family tradition and culture that focuses on continual learning so that you are nurturing character and future capacity. Get your family to take time to renew itself in the four key areas of life: physical, social, mental and spiritual.